Wednesday, 18 April 2012

The Famous 'F' word! 'Friend'

Go back in time! Visualize the famous "Yeh dosti" song featuring Jai and Veeru. All those movies that you've grown up on, or your parents have grown up on. Friendship amidst other relationships has always been used as a backdrop. Woh Dosti jiski log misaal diya karte hain...Woh dost jiske liye jaan bhi haazir hai. Waah waah! Cut to present. Reality seems different. Nowhere similar to what movies show. Nowhere near what it used to be.

Is bhaagti hui zindagi mein..hum bahut si baatein bhool jaate hain..bahut se logon ko bhool jaate hain. Today the meaning of the term 'friend' seems to have changed. People who you 'hangout' with, are called 'friends' specially the teenagers today. People who you have 'fun' with are called 'friends'. People who you go for a smoke with are 'friends'. Not just blaming one person, but everybody, may be all of us have become a very integral part of the mean world. You are good to someone, friends with someone, only till you need that someone. Where now does that 'gehri dosti' exist?

And then..comes a time when amidst all the fun that you're having, all the people around you, you still feel lonely. Think about it. That probably is because..All this while you've been searching for 'people' to hang out with and not searching for a friend to share your thoughts with. I have particularly had a group. with whom i've loved to spend some quality time, over good food where we've laughed together, cried together. Shared similar thoughts, argued over things due to difference of opinions. Created memories. Unforgettable memories. Though somehow i find myself just giving too much in any relationship, be it friendship even. Hence end up being taken for granted. I've had people who i've called friends, who've actually not deserved that 'tag'. At this moment, i hardly do have 'friends'..just a few..i can count on my finger tips. But i have no regrets. Because i think, at most times, i've never needed someone else.

The point I'm trying to make is, 'Get the difference. Get the meaning 'friend'. Also the term 'best friend' is highly over-rated. Quality friends matter much more than the number of friends you have. Pick those quality friends and value them. Valuing people who care for you is so important. Value people who love you and you really dont need one special day to make them feel special.

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